You are not IN the universe, you ARE the universe, an intrinsic part of it. Ultimately you are not a person, but a focal point where the universe is becoming conscious of itself. What an amazing miracle.
Facing the fear of loving, for example, is not comfortable. You have to examine how many ways you hurt people and punish them for not loving you. You have to get through the dark grime of recognizing that you often use past hurts as an excuse to manipulate others or hold back loving emotions just to hurt others in a control game. This is not love. It is a toxic game of power reflecting that you know little if anything about the true power of love.
But when you finally get through all the fear and game playing, what emerges is all the love you actually do have in you. The only thing left is a feeling of absolute liberation that allows you – if not compels you – to love more deeply and honestly than you thought possible. And it is this inner awakening that makes this journey so magnificent. The freedom to love and to let your graces and gifts flow abundantly through you is the ultimate power a human being can experience.
I don’t have a last name for this person, nor really know who they are. This quote was pulled out of a longer email that was forwarded to me by my mother (because other aspects of the email stood out to her and she wanted to share).
I actually received this email yesterday but didn’t read it because I was busy traveling. Funny, because I couldn’t have read it at a better time than this morning, and this part was the most striking to me.
These are all things I feel I “know” — have spent a lot of time thinking about in the past — but have gradually slipped to the back of my mind, and with consequences that were starting to show their faces.
That first paragraph in particular I needed to hear again. The holidays get so stressful and a lot of times I funnel that stress out to family and those close to me in distorted forms. I need to be more conscientious about how I process things.
I’m so happy I read this today and hope you find those wise words helpful in your life as well.
Each of us is a unique thread in the fabric of our collective existence.
For I have always lived violently, drunk hugely, eaten too much or not at all, slept around the clock or missed two nights of sleeping, worked too hard and too long in glory, or slobbed for a time in utter laziness. I’ve lifted, pulled, chopped, climbed, made love with joy and taken my hangovers as a consequence, not as a punishment. I [do] not want to surrender my fierceness for a small gain in yardage.
Capitalism is fundamentally invested in notions of scarcity, encouraging people to feel that we never have enough so that we will act out of greed and hording and focus on accumulation. Indeed, the romance myth is focused on scarcity: There is only one person out there for you!!! You need to find someone to marry before you get too old!!!! The sexual exclusivity rule is focused on scarcity, too: Each person only has a certain amount of attention or attraction or love or interest, and if any of it goes to someone besides their partner their partner must lose out. We don’t generally apply this rule to other relationships—we don’t assume that having two kids means loving the first one less or not at all, or having more than one friend means being a bad or fake or less interested friend to our other friends. We apply this particular understanding of scarcity to romance and love, and most of us internalize that feeling of scarcity pretty deeply.
I urge you to please notice when you are happy, and exclaim or murmur or think at some point, ‘If this isn’t nice, I don’t know what is.’
For we each of us deserve everything, every luxury that was ever piled in the tombs of the dead kings, and we each of us deserve nothing, not a mouthful of bread in hunger. Have we not eaten while another starved? Will you punish us for that? Will you reward us for the virtue of starving while others ate? No man earns punishment, no man earns reward. Free your mind of the idea of deserving, the idea of earning, and you will begin to be able to think.